What to do, what to do?

[LuLu]

Hi Court! Last night went surprisingly well. I had zero expectations and maintained that the whole night. I was nervous about the whole thing and had a couple of glasses of wine to loosen me up. That did not hurt things at all. I was quite chipper!

H picked me up at the house at 7pm and we went to dinner. We had nice small talk. I was very careful to not focus on me and followed the mantra "listen like a lover". I didn't argue, contradict or try to correct him. I listened and acknowledged. I caught myself a few times yapping away and then stopped myself. I was pretty proud of my db'ing efforts. It took A LOT of effort but I did it. Seriously hard work.

We ended up coming back to the house and just watching tv. One thing led to another and we ML. No complaints there. But the pullback came immediately after wards, he left. Even though I was expecting something like that, it still hurt. BUT, I felt pretty good about the whole night. It was major progress.

Of course, it didn't hurt that H called this morning to see if I had spoken to our girls. During the conversation he apologized for leaving abruptly and then as an added bonus he said, "I had a good time last night. It was like the old us." After I picked my jaw up off of the floor, I told him that I had fun too. Kept the conversation short and sweet and that was that. I'll see him tomorrow and will have to keep on keeping on. DB'ing, 180'ing and GAL'ing because something is working!