Antlers, Something about your post really bothered me. Maybe if I was in your shoes I'd feel the same but you sound really angry at some perceived injustices. Quite certain this is going to be an unpopular post but your W has earned 50% of your current assets as she has contributed 50% to your family. If she has a retirement plan you should have a 50% claim on hers as well. Chances are that she was banking on you and had nothing set up for herself.
On the child support issue, you have grounds to push for physical custody if you are staying in the family home.
Maybe your post struck a nerve in my mind cause my W wants nothing. Think that hurts worse than being asked for her fair share.
Hi C-Bart. Nope. I'm not angry. I haven't been angry at her in almost a year. Yep, if you were in my shoes, you'd probably feel the same. When she left, she said "I want to do this by myself." She wouldn't let me help her (financially or otherwise); I offered many times, especially early on. She makes plenty of money and hasn't needed my help at all. They take Florida vacations and oceanic cruises (and that's OK with me)...but going after me now for child support when we've had joint legal and physical custody and plan to continue to do so is ridiculous. I have been in the family home since she left. The law here says she's also entitled to half the equity in the home, and half our joint retirement account totals (I've built them up by myself over the years, for our future).
Maybe it did strike a nerve with you for whatever reason. I'm sorry you're hurt. I'm hurt too.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
