Thanks once again J. I did go to a L back in Jan. when H filed for a no fault, custody, separaton of property. There was no way I was going to go for a no fault. He makes a lot more than I ever will, so I do know my rights if H goes through with Divorce. I do get child support for our D12 but not my son, since my first husband would not allow him to adopt him.
H has started paying on some of the bills that are in both of our names just last month. And L told me that he will be responsible for 1/2 of everything I paid if the divorce goes through.
Since the custody hearing, H lost his L I guess b/c he lied to her about not staying in our D12's counseling, drinking and driving, etc. That was back in May and he didn't go into the hearing, just his L and step-mother (she is very controlling). When H goes off of his meds he drinks a lot.
I was going to go for spousal support so this way I could pay the loans that are in both of our names but now that he started to help pay them I'm letting it go.
My L said that in our state it is a 50/50 chance of a master ordering him to pay 1/2 of the bills in a separation agreement they would rather do it at the D hearing. I can't afford to go to it anyway (very expensive). And like you said I don't want to push him away by taking him to a court hearing.
We have been through a couple b/c of child support.
I'm trying to think of a new name but can't right now. You are so right as far as hearing the same thing over and over again, about me on here asking the same questions and I appoligize for it. Am trying to GAL, but with 2 jobs, 2 children, and a house to take care of it is really hard. I get tired, and I know I have to be more upbeat and I'm going to try harder.
I will do everything you suggested b/c you of all people know what it is like to go through this MLC or Depression whatever the heck it is, just get confused b/c friends will tell me that he needs to be needed and reassured of my love for him b/c he feels like a failure for leaving. And that b/c he suffers from depression and has for a long time off and on that he needs to know we all love him and are here for him. So that is where my mistakes come from on DBusting.
