Just heard the greatest reminder...for all of you in relationships with spouses who are emotionally unavailable and for those who tend to have relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable. (gina jumping up and down...me me me me!!)
here is the quote I saw...."Don't go to the hardware store to buy bread". Translation...if I wouldn't go to the hardware store to buy bread, why would I constantly go to the emotionally unavialable people to meet my emotional needs? WHY WHY WHY...well, I know the reason, I'm co-dependant and still in learning the ins and outs of recovery. At least I recognize what it is that I'm doing when I'm doing it.
Just tried to share something with my husband who shut me down completely which is his norm. Why am I upset? I shouldn't be. I know he is the hardware store and I'm trying to get the bread from it. I love the fact that I have enough recovery to at least recognize it...now to get enough recovery so I STOP doing it.
Just a random thought.. Have a good afternoon everyone.
Gina B
M 43 H 34 D 4 H asked for D on 6/21/09:1st D mediation 7/27;D says he wants to try 8/18; *I will stumble, I will fall down but I will not be moved.(N.Grant)
