Quote: I argued myself out of it though since I was more worried about NOT telling H about it right away.
Next time you argue with yourself , ask yourself ... Is it really that pressing to tell him, or am I OK with taking the first step to getting there and let him meet me half way on his terms?
Quote: Actually, I tried to make a "service" type peace offering a couple of times...he would have none of it
It doesn't have to be a service ... it may take the form of a gift. Of course the common cliche here is floweres but I don't know if that would work on your H, maybe tickets to a ball game or show inside a card? ... words of affection, like a banner across the front porch saying "I'm sorry! - Truce?" for him to see when he came home ... or touch ... a back rub may be what works or just holding his hand while sitting beside him? ... just something he will interpret as waving of a white flag - "Truce?"
It may take some experimentation to hit upon what works better ... so try not to get apprehensive to attempt something new. At the very least, it give a chance for Hubby to see you are trying at your end to make things better versus the preception that you're just try to maintain damage control.
Quote: Another revelation just flashed...H has been speaking to MY LL's!!
As the commercial goes ... "Can you hear me now? ... GOOD!"
, ask yourself ... Is it really that pressing to tell him, or am I OK with taking the first step to getting there and let him meet me half way on his terms? 