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Hey K.. why did you decline the invitation? Do you resent him asking you to do family things, you want him to invite you say to dinner, or a weekend in Venice?? Could you say, no I dont want to play happy families, if you wanted to wine and dine me instead, alone, just me and you, I would have said yes????

Will all due respect Ali. Her husband carried on a longterm affair, lied to her, took pictures of the sex...etc. You don't turn it off overnight and "OK honey I"d love to go to the movies with you and the kids." Or Venice. That is enabling behavior.

If Kalni wants her husband back, all things need to come to a stop and he needs to do incredible work or she will be back in the same place when he repeats what he did. And, the chances are HIGH that he will be ALL accounts AND percentages.

I don't say shut off ALL attempts at healing.

I repeat, when a spouse is AWOL for a 4 day weekend with an OP, you don't greet them with homecooked meal and a 'welcome home honey.' Michelle does NOT say this in her book.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;