YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER THIS! You already have the awareness that this bleeding will occur. So stop it!! Talk to yourself. Love yourself. Heal yourself. What would you say to your CHILD who told you what you just wrote to me - the bleeding over part - what would you say to your child to encourage him/her? Well, say that to yourself! You would say "You are not unlovable just b/c one person doesn't love you. You are a valuable friend to many people. You have gifts that others need and want you to share. You have so much to offer - you are lovable and WILL BE LOVED!" That's what I'd say to MY child, anyway. You say that to yourself and believe it.
Why is it so hard to exert that control? I'm a big believer in compassion, it's something I've been working on for the last 8 or 9 months. If I have true compassion for my hurts, then I sould care about my hurts, and I should have the will to do something about them! If it hurts me to think about something, then being compassionate with myself means that I shouldn't think about something that hurts me (that's the 'having the will to do something about it' part)! Right? I believe in talking to myself, and loving myself, and healing myself. Easy to say, harder to do. Your analogy makes perfect sense.
"You are not unlovable just b/c one person doesn't love you. You are a valuable friend to many people. You have gifts that others need and want you to share. You have so much to offer - you are lovable and WILL BE LOVED!" - Greek
"You say that to yourself and believe it." - Greek
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
