WOWZA KAW is good! I am so impressed! Zoo, I would like to share my thought on this as well. My H and I used to pass the household accounts (the books what have you) back and forth about every year or so. When one would get burnt out doing them we'd tell the other and they would just pass over to H or me. H has liked the way I did the books for the last few years and now I do them all the time. I tried something like you did at one point and even in a variety of ways. In the end he likes me doing them and I like doing them so now I just do them and that's that. This is an example of "Keep What's Working". I know when you're chomping at the DB bit you may be tempted to try a 180 on everything and maybe that's not such a good idea.
There ARE things that your H likes that you're doing and what's working for him and you and for your R. So maybe every aspect of your R needs no DB, maybe a few things just need a lil DB and maybe a few things need alota DB. I may not be clear here but you got a clear signal of what didn't working so that's great. And funnel cake peace offering--too much! Really neat. This post tickled me!
