you completely have the right to say this isnt the time for small talk and watching tv together. you hurt me.
I agree, but I wouldn't use the word "hurt." I'd rather see you say something like "Considering what you've been doing lately, I don't think this is the time for small talk and watching TV together. I'm very angry with you."
The "rule," e, if there is one, is to do whatever the "right thing to do" is, or whatever feels AUTHENTIC to you. If YOU really want to watch The Office, and it's DVR'd, you should watch it (although I'd rather see YOU initiate it, rather than respond to her). If you don't, then don't.
She's trying to "normalize" things -- entirely SCRIPT.
