Congratulations on handling the visit so well, Nell. I'm sure it wasn't easy but you did it.
I think you blew it with the follow up email though. Presumably you thanked him for his assistance when he was there. It is not necessary to go on and on about it.
I think he feels the need to keep telling you "I don't love you and it is over" because he can feel your pursuit. That email was pursuit. It seems that every time you make a little progress, you don't continue with what worked and revert back to what didn't work. It can't make you look very desireable in his eyes to have the woman he rejected for another falling all over herself to thank him repeatedly for helping maintain the house.
