Pam: It has taken him as long as a week to bounce back before We went on a trip then too which made for a very long and miserable 10 hr. drive. He finally came around by the time we had arrived at our destination but....*shudder*. This time around was actually relatively quick!
Shiny: Sorry, I used SF for StepFather
I'm like you in a way...my anger burns real hot, real quick and then I am ready to move on. I wasn't always like that but a 6 yr.stint in the military taught me anger management if nothing else
My big problem is that I tend to let things simmer just below the boiling point...I stay annoyed for days on end. Sometimes I succeed at syphoning the annoyance off into something like yardwork...sometimes I don't and it blows up.
If I think that I'm gonna reach explosion level though I do try everything I can to hold it at bay until there is no one around me. I can be overly cruel when I am in that state of mind, not to mention somewhat physical. Since I, myself, don't like when people are angrily cruel to me I don't think it fair of me to be so with them.
H cannot tolerate my anger. Hence it is difficult for me to deal with H's prolonged tantrums. I can't wrap my mind around the idea that someone wants to act in a way that they would under no circumstances accept from me.
H is aware that everyone knows about our R problems...that doesn't appear to bother him so much now since we have started working through them. The offense was that I discussed a finacial problem. This baffeled me because he never shows any interest in the finances other then to ask if there is enough money to make a substantial purchase. The rest of the time he just spends the money and I find out about it after the fact.
We had discussed this point before and it was one of the things we agreed needed changing. So this time, instead of fixing the problem like I always do so HE didn't have to worry about it, I opted to include him in the decision-making process. Now here we are...and the problem STILL hasn't been resolved
Well, gotta go get my bread started...
Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
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We went on a trip then too which made for a very long and miserable 10 hr. drive. He finally came around by the time we had arrived at our destination but....*shudder*. This time around was actually relatively quick!
