"I've been sitting here trying to come up with an answer. I think part of me is afraid of losing H even though I know things can't stay the way they are.

I'm also afraid of the unknown."

I`m right with you on all of that Ash. Just at that point myself.

Just found your thread read through some of it and loving the advice you`re receiving.

I think it kills our H`s when they think we can get on without them. Survival is the name of the game with DBing.

this is a difficult road though and not knowing what`s ahead can be torturous. The only cure is to enjoy all your blessings now, have your bawling session, then meditate/do what you do to find your calm. Plan ahead though not to the point of fretting about stuff.

The fear demon jumps up and bites when you least expect it so be ready to listen to it when it does.Pin down the exact point of fear-lack of money?child custody?parent`s reaction? and build a plan to deal with them.

Love the tip about crying with a timer on!

Love all PDTs advise too.