PS Have you seen a lawyer yet? You should just to know. It does NOT mean you must do anything nor should you tell your h at this point.
Shoot, seeing a L for me, helped me choose to stay married b/c I felt safe to do so. But I filed for a sep at one point, mainly to protect assets as h was in the spell of his rich heroes wanting him to invest...AND a tiny part of me thought maybe he'd wake up. That did not wake him up but it gave me peace of mind. About a year ago he mentioned that HE was glad WE didn't mortgage the house to invest there....no I didn't jump in his face to remind him of how that happened...
Hey, it's better to be happy than right. You must see a L though. You have children to think of. A consultation is NOT prohibitively expensive anyhow and with him out of the house and earning more, I assume, he'll end up paying the bills or most of them anyhow...but if you need to know how much he can squander WHILE legally married to you, b/c if it's in his advantage he may well spend or hide a whole lot...like "loaning" money to his relatives who won't mention it...
Fact: most men who leave their wives have made financial plans without their wives knowing. Most women do not. It cannot hurt you to know your rights. And I would not mention it to him NOR would I refrain from seeing a L b/c your h says he "wants to keep L's out of it'...yeah, I bet he does.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
