First off, this is the first slip I have seen you have since moving to piecing. It is going to happen. As Sage keeps telling me; have to get back on the DB horse!
Second and this is most important, being the 'Queen of beating herself up' it won't help and will only hurt you and fix nothing. Have to stop that to move forward. My new motto that I keep trying to remind myself, not always doing it but trying, if I can make amends do so, if not forgive myself, learn from the situation, and move forward. Talking to David the other day said be nice if you could go back in time and fix things but then you would spend your time doing that rather than living in the present. So don't take your present away beating yourself up.
I don't blame you over not liking the silent treatment or the way it makes you feel inside. Is there any chance at a different time your h might read something with you on ways to address conflict and deal with them? I am thinking if I remember correctly the Mars, Venus book has some suggestions on this in it. I know David and I need to work on ways to address conflicts in our R. So if you and H go first I will have some ideas to follow here.
You have some awesome positives going and I'm sure you will be right back there once you get past this glitch. Things are going to happen, and with your strength of mind I'm sure you will work something out here.
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It is supposed to be an awesome weekend and the leaves are beautiful here right now, probably where you are at also. Try to enjoy your weekend and hope your H doesn't stay upset the whole time.
On the e-mail thing, I tend to get myself in trouble more when talking because don't stop and think, if I write I think more. But if real upset those are the emails I am NOT supposed to send! This one the other day was more a sharing/talking email. Not too long, difficult for me, LOL, and sort of letting him know what was going on with me and my afternoons at work and ideas I had to try to address it rather than drive the two of us batty in the afternoons.
I also usually send the emails to both his work and home address and that way he can read them whichever place he has the time or inclination. He doesn't always answer me, but he reads them and sometimes comments on them in later conversation. I did ask one time if he would rather I not email him and he said no that is fine that you do that, he probably knows this saves him some phone or IM time!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
