Thank you nightshade. My H is a very introspective and closed individual in a lot of respects. If I were to e-mail or write to him everyday he sould say that I was annoying, clingy, and being "up his a$$" even worse then usual. I tried sending him a couple of e-mails just to say "Hi, I'm thinking of your"...hmmm, I get no reply back and so I asked a couple of days later if he got them ( my e-mail has a tendency to disappear into limboland). He said yeah. I asked if he liked them, his response..."I guess,". That was it.

I use to keep a journal where all I did was talk to him in it...we were in a non-speaking phase and I had to do something to get things off of my chest. I mistakenly left the journal behind when I went on one of my "trips" home. H read it and it had some positive effects on our R. I continued writing in it, saying things that I didn't want to say to him face to face. H read it again...BIG MISTAKE! H didn't like what I had to say and it set us back again. I threw the journal in the trash and stopped writing to him period. I keep a solution jounal now but I don't let him near it.

TTFN
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi