Well the phone rang today out of the blue as Id thought it would one day and a quiet nervous voice said "Its Chris".After a years silence. He kept apologising for not calling and saying how wrong it was. Said he had kept all my cards and letters.He said he was fed up with spending cash on soliciters.He asked if he could have "a couple of months grace" before putting house on market and I agreed it will go on early Jan.(unlikely to sell between now and Christmas anyway)Said not a day goes by when he isnt thinking of me. Then said he is in York on Monday should we meet?I said I wasnt sure and would text him.I think the reasons for this call are 1) Guilt.Hes decent enough to know his silence was cruel and cowardly 2) Fear-he knows the marriage is really ending and he will be financially much worse off 3)Curiosity-would I still talk to him or see him? 4) He still cares- I believe-and genuinely wants to see me. 5) A chance to appeal to my feelings and get a better settlement. Im quite sure these are correct interpretations.I have no idea right now if I will meet him or not. I want to,but have to examine my motives. Theres no evidence that he wants a reconciliation so I need to view it as a business type meeting. It probably would be best to say no on an emotional (and divorce-busting principles) level but I am as weak as him!Snodderly if you read this Id really appreciate your advice.
