It all sounds good to me: Wife never mentioning D, wife initiating R discussions. Validate, validate, validate. Same discussion over and over several times? "We've already discussed this and I'll need time to digest what you've already said about it before tackling it again."
Don't defend. Agree. For now. I don't know how 'a particular point' can 'ask for a response from' you. Does she ask for a response from you? If not, just listen.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
