Didn't read all the posts in the thread yet, but I find the idea of emailing or writing in some way a very good one for some people. My h has trouble in a normal conversation because he gets so keyed up into defending himself that he only hears half of what I'm saying , the other half is spend on him thinking hard on an good excuse or comeback . SO I learned early that writing was the best way. He doesn't have to worry about defending himself as much and he has more time to let it sink before he answers. Now going to read the rest
nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
