(hence the comment about "I thought you would take longer to get over this then you have").
Remember in the anology when I said how when you dropped the rope that she would kind of stumble and almost fall and then turn to look at you in shock? Well, this is what she is doing now. She doesn't really know how to take the changes you are making at this time. She is shocked that you did not grieve longer b/c she was expecting you to just simply give up trying to live if she D you, but that isn't what you have done.....so it has her attention. Yes, she is angry that you are doing those things that she wanted and you have waited until now to do them. But when you think about it, it only stands to reason that she "should" feel that way. In time, I believe she will get past the angry stage and then she'll watch to see if those changes will stick. When she decides they will....she will begin to want to have you back. That is why it is so great that you are learning as you go and making adjustments where you need to.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
