I've Come Full Circle #27

[Yoyowife]

Kat,

I can feel your son's pain...I hate math too!

At our school the teachers are in the classrooms in the morning for students to come in before school starts if they need extra help. You might want to check with his teacher and see if this might be a possibility.

You might also want to talk to the school counselor and see if there are any counseling programs to help him overcome the pain of the divorce. And just think "divorce is only between the parents...it's not about the kids". Weren't we all told this by the WAS?

Hugs, Yoyo

[kat727]

The math teacher called me at work and I think we are going to go to 8th grade math and deal with Algebra next year. Darn that it just won't go away!! I spoke with S14 and he says fine then that is what we will do.

Hopefully this will give him some time to get his confidence back up. Just sent a long e-mail to the science teacher. S14 has a test and an assignment due tomorrow, so hopefully if he does well he can get a bit better grade. I am exhausted and I haven't even helped with homework yet.

kat

[Gypsy]

Hey Ms. Kat..

*hugs*

If it's not too late I'd dangle a reaaaalllllly juicy carrot and see what happens. My niece is dying for a cellphone. She hates school. If she gets two marking periods of honors she'll get the phone. If the grades go down afterwards, she loses the phone. That eighth grade girl has never been more motivated!

*hugs*

[kat727]

Thanks sweet Katie! That is a thought. I emailed the teacher last night as we had to let him know today as it is the end of the quarter today. I hope he does ok on the science to pull it up. I think that is the thing. All kind of today is the day sort of thing, but I will think of the phone as a carrot for the future since he now has a girlfriend.

Thanks for the hugs. I really can use them.

kat

[whatdidido]

More hugs to you, Kat. I'm with Yoyo on checking to see if he can come in early for help as needed. A parent can only help so much, at his age.

It's good to teach him to go and get help as needed and to not be ashamed to do so. I remember having to go to a college professor about help and realizing that I had never had to do that in high school. I was scared half to death. Maybe if I had done it before college I wouldn't have been. It's a good life skill to ask for help when you need it.

[kat727]

Thanks for stopping by, I do miss chatting with you. We moved him to 8th grade math in hopes of getting his grade up and getting ready to deal with Algebra next year. He did well on his Science so that is a good thing.

I just wish ex would quit pretending to be a good parent. He drives me nuts with this stuff. Just wish he would give us peace. Maybe someday.

kat

[kat727]

Ex started up again but now on co-pays. I have bought all the kids their medicine, prescriptions and S14's contacts. He did take the girls to the dentist. We had a big bill before insurance for the kid's blood specialist. He told me he would pay part. So I let him know how much it was and that I paid it already. He then paid me half.

So today he says my half of the girls dentist is $14 and I can write him a check on Tuesday. I replied that I had covered the contacts and prescription but hadn't asked for anything but if he wanted to start down that road, I could.

He didn't like that and he tried to say he wasn't trying to start anything(which always means he is). What an @ss. Why didn't anyone warn me ahead of time? But then again, would I have listened?


kat

[Kalni]

No, sadly you wouldnt have listened. Like most of us wouldnt.

If you end up paying more, maybe you SHOULD start down that road. Why the hell not?

Sorry he is a jerk Kat,
xxxx
K

[karen43]

I agree with Kalni. If he wants to be an a$$ and insist on your paying that copay (b/c he feels like such a martyr I'm sure he would have to pay that $14), then go ahead and do what he wants and tell him if he wants to start down that road, he will have to come up with more money for the rest of the copays. I've been told by L and others that have gotten D, it's standard to cut copays down the middle anyway, so maybe is a good idea--esp. if he's being an a$$ about it...

I hope you had some fun this weekend too???

[ClingingToHope]

Medical stuff is a slippery slope. In our five months of S it seems like my W tends to have things to do when the girls need to go to the doctor or pick up medication. Since I have the flexible job, I end up taking them and of course, getting stuck with the copays and the bills.

I haven't said anything yet, but since child support isn't automatic yet I did deduct $65 one time because she asked me to stay home with both kids when they were sick, take them to the doctor and pick up the medicine. Along with D7's ADHD meds, which had run out, the day cost me $130.

Since we've split, I've somehow ended up buying every one of D7's ADHD prescriptions at $40 a pop.

If I say anything, of course I'm being a jerk.