Wow Zoo! I was reading your post, really appreciating the wisdom of your words, then saw your kind comments about me. Thanks so much!
I've been thinking about your earlier post too, I'm struggling with this feeling too of "what's really going on here??" W is clearly committed now, clearly happy, clearly things are great. SHe still suffers a lot of anxiety, though, and I feel a need for reassurance too. We're still rebuilding key parts of our relationship, particularly intimacy. I guess it's time and patience, and not forgetting to focus on myself - she's still got her things to do, still a lot of work, and I want to avoid returning to the pattern of trying to extract security from the R. In some ways, I guess DBing has to become a way of life, maintaining our complete core, complete selves, and bringing that to our R.
I'm rambling, sorry - very tired right now, but wanted to pop in and visit. Chat with you soon Zoo - thanks again -
