Wife out till 3;30 in the morning

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Have you guys tried marriage counseling? I see a lot of passive-aggressive stuff going on here, with both of you.

Puppy

[JTJ]

Puppy,

We were in MC and they split us up into IC only after a few months. I'm Still going she's not. Mine IC wants me to set a date for divorce. I keep on putting it off. my new date is january. But, I don't wan't a divorce. So I probably will keep going.

I do agree with the passive aggressive sitch. Any good books you could suggest would be helpful.

thanks

JJ

[K4D]

I would change C's if they are telling you to set a date for D and you don't want a D.

Just my 2 cents.

Kevin

[JTJ]

Journaling,

Last night I come home from going to a football game with a friend. I asked W about watching her friends kids. W returned them 25 miles to friends Ex's house. Who has asked my wife out on a date. She initially denied that he did and still maintains this. I object and said I really don't like this and she proceads to tell me that nothing can happen with his wife and child there. Also I said that I didn't appreciate that she has been out till 3:30 in the morning 3 times in the last two weeks and what if one of the kids wakes up and needs her. She told me I was trying to manipulate her and if she wanted to stay out until 6 am she would.

Well the argument changes to why I won't divorce her and the only thing she wants from me ia a divorce and I won't take care of it. I tell her if she wants a divorce than go for it. She tells me how unfair it is that she has put up with so much and I won't give her what she wants. She also states that the only reason she is hear is for financial reasons. Also why havn't I painted more so we can put the house up for sale. I told her to call the realtor if thats what she wants to do.

Mind you 10 hrs before she comes into my office with just a towel wrapped around herself and thanks me for something I did.

I will def give her space today. She leaves on thursday for an out of town trip with her girlfriends. Am I setting boundries properly?

[Steve McQueen]

What hobbies do you have?

[JTJ]

Steve,

I travel with work. So when I'm home I help out around the house, work out, and hang out with friends. Wife has askede to go to a couple of movies in the last couple of months and went to a profootball game at her suggestion. I'm trying to find time to join a choir not much time left. I stay very busy.

[JTJ]

Journaling,

Kept busy most of the weekend. I'm in town this week so that is good. Thanks for writing the detachment thread coach and puppy. It has been helpful. Wife and i went to home depot on sunday for paint supplies. She suggested we put laminate down in our living room. I listened and validated. But thought why? You just told me to give you a divorce a couple of nights ago. If we had the money i would do it. But, we need a new hot water heater first. I wish I had more help with boundries and what I should set? Is she just testing me? Why not just sell the House.

JJ

[Puppy Dog Tails]

So you need a hot water heater, you don't have the money, you didn't want to do it, but you did it anyway???

[JTJ]

I'm confused Puppy. The hot water heater needs to be replaced. It works but is limping along. Please elaborate on what you are trying to tell me I'm a little slow.

JJ

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I'm wondering why you're trying to placate her, if these are things that you don't think are "the Right Thing to Do." Because that rarely (if ever) works.