Here's a question for you, then - what do you want in terms of the marriage? Do you want to stay together and put in the hard work to make the marriage better? If she would work on the R and you worked at it, and you could create a new marriage, is that your goal? Or, are you not sure she's the person you want to be with anymore and you don't think you'd want a new marriage with her, or just don't see it as feasible? What's your goal, what's your dream? I think you have to figure out what you really want at this point. Then move in that direction.
