hey antlers... checking up on you and sorry to hear about the D proceedings.
The detaching will come. Ask God to help you with detaching to the point you aren't concerned about her thoughts, actions or feelings. He can help you get there. That detachment doesn't mean you're giving up hope, but rather protecting yourself and your heart. If it's His will that you come back together, it will happen regardless of the detachment. So pray for strength and the ability to detach.
Focus on your kids. Ride the bike (but not obsessively), listen to music, get out with the family and enjoy the fall. You can do it, and we're here to support you. Take care.
