A lot has changed in the past month. My dad passed. My son's BF died. I stopped waiting for H to change his mind.
After my dad passed, and my H didn't reach out to me, the family or even stop by the hospital to say goodbye to my dad, I realized he is never coming back to me. And I'm doing okay with that. It's been 7.5 months since he left. The only contact has been about bills. So, I decided to stop wondering if/when he'll file and just ask, and if necessary, file for D myself. So, I asked and later I offered to split the filing fee with him.
H thinks he can afford to file next week, so we'll see if he follows up. The process is smoother if it's a joint filing and I am okay with doing this. It's necessary to protect myself financially, and I really don't want to have a nasty D mess up 2010 for me. This has been a tough year, but I remain hopeful that better days are ahead. I don't want to sit around wondering when things are going to happen. I'm taking control, moving ahead, and rollin' down my river.
