Puppy - Before I started DBing, close to two months ago now, the prior 4 months were filled with me crying, pleading, being bitchy and full of attitude, isolating myself, trying to make him feel guilty, talk sense into him...etc, etc, etc. Basically, anything and everything that is wrong to do in DBing, I was doing it/had done it. This included telling him on several occasions that he was attached at the hip to his phone with his texting and phone calls and that he shouldn't be so disrespectful as to even do that at all from our house. That was met with a "I'm paying for everything in this house including your car insurance, cell phone bill, health insurance, and internet, so this is my house and I will darn well do what I please here." He has had the courtesy enough for the most part to take all his phone calls out in the garage or in his bedroom with the door closed. Texting on the other hand has still continued even in my presence. I have no way of knowing who he is texting or texting him at any given time (short of looking up cell phone records which I did through the years of previous separations/problem times, but have not done or given into for this entire round = SO proud of myself). I have just noticed some patterns that have kinda clued me in when it is most likely OW. So a 180 for me was to stop giving it any attention at all and act as if I could care less about his phone activities now, which I feel I have been doing extremely well with.
Continue on into next post as it also applies to your question on this and what happened last night...
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
