Since you are mainly posting over here now, ask 25yearsmlc for her advice since she is a family law attorney in California. I think somehow you are getting screwed and she will tell you that. You really should fire your L and hire a better one. Talk to her first though. Don't be an idiot in this as I know you are smarter than this.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...