"My W and I have been married 20 years. I had a brief affair 4 years ago that resulted in a child."
"She asked me to come back but I said I was in love with my W and would not."
"My W knew everything and we agreed to work on our marriage."
"Everything was going great, appeared we put the past behind us but then she started asking all kinds of questions and started bringing up the A and the child."
The question becomes.. why did she start asking questions?
"My W now 4 years later served me with papers and is very angry."
Imagine that. How did you answer her questions? Are you really sure.. she "understood"?
"It appears she has now found someone and can only justify the filing by bringing up the past of 4 years ago."
Which is fair enough. I mean you do have "a kid".
Why would you not focus on "the wrong" that has been done to you? Is this not a reasonable thing for her to do?
"I Love her more than anything."
I still am left with the lingering question.. did you really prove that too her? Or did you just do the best that you knew how?
I am a firm believer in that DB.com usually is a accurate depiction of real life. That being said I suspect that she feels left out.. just like I do. I applaud your effort in posting.. but you leave me wanting more.
"She served me yesterday."
This is a big factor. To be honest I am not 100% sure how to direct you. I need you to lead. Show me the way.
"I hope this gets better and the pain goes away."
Both of these things will happen. It is still up in the air.. how quickly that will happen.
You may be fighting a losing battle.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
