Guess who came over tonight for a surprise drop in to visit S5, and was nice?
I showed him the deep cleaning I did for my FIL's visit this week, and he said the cat pee smell was almost gone. He could not argue with me about not taking care of the house tonight!
H started down a worry path about me moving the tv to get at the cat pee stain - freaking out about the wires, the tv's proximity to the window, etc, but he tried to keep himself under control. H was not yelling and angry about it, as I would normally expect.
The biggest relief was, no mention of how I'm not allowed in the house when he's here visiting with S and FIL - I didn't bring it up either. I have decided to give them lots of space, and even be prepared to walk away and leave if he gets upset about me being here - I have other gfs I can stay with. I'm hoping this was just something he was saying when he was angry -= and not something he's going to stick with. Either way, I'm prepared and not going to argue with him. I won't take that bait. If I had brought it up out of anxiousness, he would have definitely dug in his heels just to make a point! 180!
Weird scary thing - H, being a computer engineer, has a closet full of wires, plugs, etc. Unlike me, this Felix Unger type knows exactly where every nitpicky thing is. Yesterday, I had used a plug adapter on the carpet steamer that I used to clean cat pee - and accidentally returned it to Safeway with the steamer! Wouldn't you know that my H comes home TONIGHT and asks me where said adapter is! The very day it goes missing. He is scary psychic or something.
I kept quiet, but did not want an excuse for a fight. I'm going to safeway tomorrow to see if I an retrieve it - or just buy a new one. Whew - close one.
As things were calmer, I was dying to say ILU or hug him. He may have appeased me, but I don't want that kind of hug. I held back. Good for me!
