What did I do? I went thru the steps...same as you. I 're-dated' my wife. Went to new places....started amazing conversations with her. Was never 'overweight' but went back to my fighting weight. I ran 3 miles in college and was up to 5 in my late 40's. Women at work began noticing me. Some even hitting on me, but, my objective was my wife.
It's a very sad thing because, done the wrong way, it comes down to pursuit. Most of us are not equipped to do it the right way. There really are only 2 choices as I posted on another guy's thread: 1) Stand for your marriage 2) Don't
If you choose one, your only chance of winning back your marriage is to detach, grieve the loss of your marriage, go on with your life, make your changes and then just pray that, like a lost dog, she will find her way home.
Truly....any other method usually fails. Once a woman's attraction switch flips off, it usually stays off.
So..if you choose one, then, you must let go, or you will be battered, dragged and beaten at every lost night....every man she sees.....every "ILYBNILYWU" comment that she tosses your way. And you must have patience and wait for what feels like an eternity and STILL, perhaps, never get her back.
If you can't do that, then..........................
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
