What to do, what to do?

[courts0818]

Hi Lulu,
Wow...I can totally see why you've gone back and forth wondering if you should or shouldn't go tomorrow night. And you know I've felt the EXACT same way - that my H treats strangers better then me, that he's totally selfish, that he's had long enough to figure out what he wants and that sometimes I wonder why I am fighting this fight.

With all that being said, If I were you, I would go on the date tomorrow night. I mean - it is your 10th anniversary so why not give it a shot? Regardless of what you do - something with him or a girlfriend...the marriage will be on your mind bc it is your anniversary.

I think you have the right attitude and good plans. Just go with an open mind and a good attitude. This is much easier said than done, but just try to have a nice night and don't think too much about things. Simply try to enjoy your dinner and if you really feel uncomortable, order a glass of wine. : ) I think you'll be fine as long as follow your plans to tread lightly and have no expectations. Don't bring the R up. Just try to have fun and show him a little of that beautiful, fun, flirty, carefee woman who he feel in love with. She's still there!

I'm just like you. I do not have my DD stay away from me very often, but since you have a free night - enjoy it. I really hope things gone well for you. I know you could really use a great night to feel better.

Hey...I have a question. It sounds like your H has said to you many, many times the SAME thing my H has said to me - that he doesn't know what he wants. Do you really think that's true, that he really doesn't know? I had such a hard time believing my H when he told me that. But then again, they see everything through a delusional fog so who knows.

Anyway...back to the main topic...look hot tomorrow and show your H that he would be LUCKY to be with you - cause I know it's true!

Gotta run for now. : )