Newbie.....dealing with a MLC'er....

[Mach1]

Amy,

Thank you for not sugarcoating it.

THAT.....Will never be an issue.....

[Amy40]

Tru dat, Dork1.

[Amy40]

Drew,

I have a message for you from a former regular who reads the boards but no longer posts. She wanted me to emphasize to you that with your concerns over your wife's living arrangements and the person she is involved with, if you continue to let your son go with her anyway, it can seriously backfire on you later in a custody proceeding.

Search your heart and look honestly at your situation. Get yourself some REAL information as to what your sons mother is doing these days. If after doing that your concerns remain the same, do not let the child go with his mother.

It is NOT TRUE that a bad mother is better than no mother at all.

And if not seeing her son hurts her badly enough, she just might straighten up.

If not, that's her own fault.

Your job is to protect and love your son.

And take care of yourself.

She's a grown woman.

Time to reap what she's sown.

That's how this works.

There is no getting around it.

And you can't pad the fall.

Trust me on that one.


Have a great weekend!

[drewnole]

Amy,

Thank you for all the wonderful advice. The difficult part is trying to find out what exactly is going on with her. She is not communicating with any of our friends. She has withdrawn into her own little world with the OM.

I have already told her that our son will not be allowed to visit her this weekend. Of course, she hasn't responded.

It seems like she is trying really hard to make things work with the OM. The lack of communication from her speaks volumes.

I just wonder when the guilt will start to wear her down. Maybe it already is.

Its the weekend now, time to play Thomas the train with my son.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Maybe it already is.

Those happy bunny thoughts are going to get you hurt.

[drewnole]

Should have clarified that statement. I meant her possible drug use and drinking as self medicating.

I know Jack, F her. I say that to myself everyday.

[D Money]

The difficult part is trying to find out what exactly is going on with her.

Right now you don't need to. In time the answers will come.

It seems like she is trying really hard to make things work with the OM. The lack of communication from her speaks volumes.

Drew,
Don't assume anything. I thought the same things about my wife and OM #2. They split and it sounds like things were never all that rosy.

[drewnole]

Hey Mr Money,

Thanks for stopping by and offering some insight. I'm finally starting to realize how treacherous a journey this is.

You ready for this week's college football games?

FSU has GT in Tallahassee. Should be a tough game. Who do the Canes play this week?

[sleeper]

I just wonder when the guilt will start to wear her down. Maybe it already is.

Stop wondering. Ever "wonder" how many stars there are in the night sky? How right do you think you were? We've all been there. Wishing it would end quickly, estimating how long it might take. My sister worked for a government contractor at one time. Take whatever estimate you have and multiply by 2.5.

Its the weekend now, time to play Thomas the train with my son.

Now you are talking! I never truly bonded with my son until post bomb and separation.

"Mousetrap" by Milton Bradley.

[D Money]

After 4 straight ranked teams, we get a reprieve with FAMU this week. You guys get the dreaded triple option this week. Hope they were taking notes on how we stopped it.

This week I'm the biggest LSU fan.