I am scared that I messed up...

[RonD]

Well, I'm pretty new to this but that question makes sense to me. Main difference between your sitch and mine is 1 week after the bomb my divorce was final. Now, I'm here hoping to get her back someday. I have a lot of contact with my ex because of S and D and GS; we see each other 3 - 4 times a week, so that makes it a bit confusing for me. Doing my best to remain detached, not talk about things unless she wants to, be supportive when she does want to talk, not be depressed, GAL and have a PMA. I let her know I wanted to reconcile and then found Divorce Remedy and that's that; I can only work on myself, hope she notices the changes, and pray she responds positively. So far so good; noticing some baby steps and we are rebuilding our friendship. Start dating my ex-wife? That's a good question. We meet for lunch/dinner often but they aren't "dates" in the romantic sense. I think the contact gives an opportunity for her to see any progress I may have made. When (and if) she's ready, in her time, I think dating in a romantic sense can start. As far as a timeline? I don't let it eat me up. As long as progress is being made I'll finish the race someday.

This is a great thread BTW, lots of good advice. Thanks to all of you.