Recovering yourself from all this

[frank_D]

No offense Frank...and not trying to be an a ss.

I have no huge connection with Skylar,

That is why I said what I did about Sklar.

Fair enough. He's my buddy right now but I don't mind if he spends time with STBXW. I do miss him when he's gone.

Your D14 doesn't want her mom to be alone, so she stays there, but:

3) D14 talks to me in TEARS about this situation she lives in. How she doesn't want to be around her because of her emotional mood swings

Your D14, is an amazing kid, but is breaking down trying to be a pleaser...Too much for a 14 year old...too much for anyone.

You're a pleaser too. She is taking after you. Pleasing others isn't a bad thing...as long as it doesn't come at continual cost to yourself.

Yeah, and just be be sure, she only has these tearful talks maybe once a week or so. It's not constant.

Lately I have done everything I can not to 'please' STBX. So she has been pushing the divorce, and this weekend I'll have all my paperwork done so it can go forward. Maybe by the end of October, heck, maybe on my birthday (29th) or Halloween.

Time will tell. Thanks again Jack.