my W doesn't regret her affair

[AlexEN]

Wow, talked with my mom a little last night about my situation. Didn't give any details like I discuss here, just the general situation. It's one thing to think about me reconciling with my W, but I am reeling at the thought of trying to reconcile her back into my family. The damage is so severe. They all hate her so much. Sometimes I wish they didn't know, but I couldn't have gotten through this without their support, I had to bring them in. Now I find myself defending my W to them, trying to get them to understand my role in what happened, and how I was not the great H they hold me up as. They just see her as a villain.

Does anyone here have any experience or advice about how to integrate an unfaithful spouse back into their extended family?

Future, at the point that question truly "matters", the only one you have to answer to is yourself and whetehr or not you can accept/integrate her back into your life. If/when the answer becomes "yes", then it's almost irrelevant what they think. There's no reason you can't explain the "facts" to them as you have on this board. Your reasons are "real". IMO, your extended family have taken and will take their cues from you, if they don't, that's their problem, not yours.