etrain, I did as PDT recommended above. Now this was two weeks ago (I think) Anyway, i did nto talk about anything and then went to the L. I wanted to know my rights and what the worst case for me was. She asked me, and I told her. She through a fit, then went and saw her on L. Made me laugh (not out loud) that she pitched a fit when she already had an appointment set up. Never under estimate the WAW. Now, I have no intention of filing. So I retained the L on a coaching basis only. IF my WAW starts battling with me, I have a place to turn with retainer in place. But for my own sanity, its not a "divorce" retainer. Same thing, different name, makes me feel better.

I think you will find some calm after meeting with the L. At least for me it helped me realize what Coach talks about with the Spiers Doctrine.

Good luck this weekend, PDT is spot on. It really shook the WAW when she realized that i was willinng to take the initititve to speak to the L.


ME 41, Her 41
M 18.5 years
T 19.5 years
s - 12, 10
Bomb 7/12/09
Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09
She moved out 10/1/09 - present