IMO, I think that if you are going to leave, then just do it. Stop worrying about when the kids get this age, or when so and so does this, or when the holidays are over. I hate to be blunt here but you are putting things off just like the H is always trying to put of going to C. You need to make a choice about what Bunny needs, not what everyone else needs.
Again I repeat myself on what has your H done to change? What has he changed in his day to day life that shows you without a doubt that he is trying to make the M work? What has he done different in the past few weeks since you told him you wanted out and since you started MC that shows you that he is in this M for a lifetime?
MY answer on it....NOTHING so far that you have told us about. I don't see changes, I don't hear about anything that he has said or done that is different that makes me think that he is working on making himself better or working on making the M better.
I think you know what the answer is for Bunny, your just scared. and you have a right to be scared of what choises you make and what will happen, and how will others feel or get hurt. But what about your happiuness? What about how bunny feels or how bunny gets hurt? Stop thinking about H's feelings and start focusing on yours.
If your afraid to make that final leap of faith, sign a lease, and move out, I understand that, I am there now too. But your case is worse than mine. I have a truck and plenty of gas, I would love to help you move to a new place and a a new life.
Think about you for once Bunny. What does Bunny finally deserve after all of these years?
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
