Lightbulb is BLAZING NEON now!

[Zoo]

Thanks so much for replying on my thread pbee...you have such great insight into DB'ing and your advice is always welcome

and your mother's not going to visit for a few more months.

I got a kick out of this...my parents moved in with us a month ago...LOL! Talk about making a difficult sitch worse! I have been trying to DB, AND deal with my mother at the same time as well as being ill and it has been extremely stressful. H has said he realizes this and is being quite patient which has truly amazed me (he is even cleaning the house right now as I am typing this...WOW!) We are both looking forward to their moving into their own house this week, YEAH!

I never got my big talk from my H either. Some here feel like they were robbed because of they never got an explanation or the number of the train that hit them. But frankly, R talk leads to more analyzation and more talk and more anal stuff, more talk etc, etc, etc, blah, blah, blah.

I probably never will know exactly what turned him and I am willing to accept that. It will probably never stop me from wondering though I don't think I could hold it against him though...I know that talking about emotional issues is very difficult for H...I no longer DEMAND that he do so either. This is just an aspect of him that I have to learn to live with. H does know when he is ready to open up some more I will listen so maybe it is just a matter of time?

The kind of love and the R you are having now is a better one and Zoo, you may have to setttle for that. If you had the choice of actually having what you have now OR finding out WHY you have it but had to give it up which would you pick?

Definitely what I have NOW!!! It is so much better than what we HAD...

You may be wasting time on this cheeseless tunnel. He made a mistake, he is altering his course and he wants you on board. Am I making any sense?

Perfect sense! H has made it quite clear that he wants me on board...it's one of those "pinch me" things I guess

Zoo