THank you for stopping by KAW...I have gotten a lot from your posts to other DB'ers and am glad that you posted here

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So keep doing what works ... and do more of it ... keep your expectations in reserve still (remember, its just a big toe in the water right now).



Whew, I had begun thinking that perhaps it was wrong for me to hold back my expectations some at this point. H senses this in me and has made the odd comment or 2 about it. He thinks that since he made the decision to stay and work things out I should be convinced he isn't going to bail on me?? He has changed lickety-split on me too many times for me to make that ASSumption right now. H has read DR too so he is aware of the strategies I am employing...I think it keeps him from pushing this issue too much and harping about my not accepting everything at face value right now. Yes, I have to take his word about certain things but it doesn't necessarily mean I'm happy about it

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Now that you will no longer feel like you are in "survival" mode, you will start to feel the emotional aftereffects. Betrayal, anger, trust & forgiveness issues will start creeping in.



Ugh! This is so true! I thought I had worked most of these issues out of my head and heart but they keep trying to creep back in You are right though, I have to deal with these issues myself. That is MY daily struggle right now

Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi