Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

So, as I stated in my post to you yesterday (which you never responded to), entirely predictable. So what had you planned as your response to it, and if it WAS entirely predictable, why are you "flipping out" and still being reactive???

What I have been thinking about was what I was going to do if he didn't leave.

Perhaps I should have predicted it but in reality the demands of his job and the responsiblities he is supposed to have with S I did not see it.

As far as flipping out...it hurts. Even him leaving hurts. I knew it would. I do react to what happens...I prepare as much as I can ahead of time but when it happens it still hurts.

I am probably not explaining myself fully and at the moment I just don't have the words. I knew H would see a separation as a green light to see OW. Knowing that and even trying to prepare for it only goes so far. It does not stop the blow I feel when it actually happens. And when I find out he sleeps with her, I will flip out again and I know it will hurt worse than anything in the world. I can prepare as much as possible mentally and emotionally but it'll still hurt like hell.

I think it somewhat unfair to say I am being reactive. Maybe I'm not totally understanding you and not making myself clear but understand I am a woman and we are more emotional and senstive then men.
We can prepare for something til the sun comes down but it doesn't mean it still won't hit us like a ton of bricks.