Swell, robx. Being an uncompromising jerk got me to this point. No affairs. Just distance. I went thru a bit of a mlc and our c suggested a 3 month separation. 1st week went by and I realized the mistake of leaving and wanted to work on m. She decided she wanted out. Now. Much of the history is in my other thred.
What do I do? This is divorce busting, not divorce lay down and die. Admitting I'm afraid here doesn't mean I'm weepy guy to her.
Saying "man up" isn't solid advice. Showing some sensitivity is actually a big 180 for me. Taking control of my life is important but I don't want to date anyone. I can't stop her. To do the same would hurt me as much if not more.
I don't want to give her a d until I know she won't change her mind. We've been down this road before and I was the one who asked for one before. She gave in and I wish she had stalled until I came to my senses. She kicked me out before and wanted me back soon after. Hormonal problems and a mlc like mine are affecting her so to give in and say its all fine and btw I will get my own action while I'm "a free man" will make thing complicated down the road.
I get your intent but I think a confident attitude is better than "fine, do whatever and so will I."
Saying I'm scared here is one of the few places I can admit that
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
