Detachment

[antlers]

Antlers,
That's bound to hurt - her dating other people. And I don't think you would be HUMAN if it didn't. I don't think it would be healthy if you didn't feel hurt about that. But now look - I'm thinking the healthy way to deal with that hurt (which must be inevitable) is not to let it BLEED into your self-worth. She is dating other men b/c that is what she wants - NOT b/c there is some FLAW in Antlers; not b/c Antlers is unlovable; not b/c Antlers did something to deserve this. See what I mean?

Greek

I know exactly what you mean here Greek. But, under circumstances like these, we tend to internalize things. We let it BLEED into our self-worth. Sure, they date other men because they want to, but we tell ourselves that if there wasn't a flaw in us...then they would be dating us instead! And if we weren't unlovable, and/or if we didn't do something to deserve this...then they would be dating us instead!