I've been at this since March last year. Prior to this current thread, I had an earlier thread where I was totally lost as to what to do. I think in both our cases, it's not so much that Men and Women feel the same, it's that those of us who are fighting for our M feels the same. We feel the same passion, we do all the same reading and all the same conclusions of how easy it is to fix our sitches.
Unfortunately our spouses who are in MLC or whatever refuse to look inward and rather blame outside forces for their unhappiness. Namely us, the LBS because we are the ones right in front of them. I mean, we are the ones who are there on the frontlines, so we must be the reason why they are unhappy right?
Total hogwash.
I think your sitch is much easier than mine in terms of detaching because your H is not there. Mine is home and we sleep together, etc., but mentally and emotionally she is just not there. It tends to wear you down after awhile. I've been trying to not let it get to me and that's what I'm struggling with.
Our MLC spouse will constantly cycle from positive to negative and it's hard to not get dragged along with them sometimes. What have you done to GAL? Have you gone out with other men or with friends? Have you improved your looks, etc. Does he have OW? Have you shown how you have moved on? I'll try to catch up on your thread.
This board is great in terms of support and I learn new things every day.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
