Detachment

[antlers]

Thanks for the explanation. What was it, specifically, that helped you detatch to the point where you were completely unaffected by her at all, or by what was going on in her life at all?

I'm not the expert on this - Coach is - but I did catch something that I think makes an important distinction. You write about being 'completely unaffected.' I'm thinking that the objective is more along the lines of not being responsible for your spouse more than not being affected by. I mean, what she/he does may affect your life but that you understand your are not responsible for her actions, can't control them, and they don't hold the key to you're happiness and tranquility.

Actually, in some ways, the WAS does this bit, too. For different reasons. And a lot sooner than the LBS.

Greek

Hi Greek.

I'm just trying to detatch as much as possible because she's divorcing me. I know I'm not responsible for her actions and that I can't control them. I just don't want to be hurt by them anymore. Now that I know the divorce is happening (it's in progress), I don't want to be hurt by the things that are to come...for example, her dating others. If I can get detatched to the point that her dating others will bother me no more than any other woman dating others...well, that's where I want to 'get to'! Can one get detatched to that degree?