Pup has good advice on boundaries, tho he's more tolerant than I was/am. Another boundary could be: "You cease all contact with OM and come clean with me, or we need to separate." You need to be willing to act on it though.
Personally, I couldn't live with a woman who was actively in an affair that I was aware of. When these things get out in the open, it has a way of taking the fun out of it.
BTW: She's likely doing her own laundry to hide evidence of a PA. Sorry.
Last edited by seeking sanity; 10/09/0906:16 PM.
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