Puppy, I'm afraid to even bring up d talk. Afraid she will force the d if I hint at d as boundary for my or her dating.
And I would love to just date her. Moving back would be too traumatic. But when I told her about MY dating profile she thought it was a GREAT idea. I'm at dr. Appt now w/ her and all I can see now in her is distance from me.
M A, I'm going to say it, it's this fear, this clinginess in you that is unattractive and pushes your wife away.
You're afraid to bring up the dating conversation because she will force the divorce?
News flash, she wants a divorce from you, she's separated from you, it's happening, you haven't been able to do much about it yet, but yet you still think you are controlling any of this?! Where is the logic in this?
Don't ask permission to date others, did she ask you for permission? We're adults, we'll all do what we want regardless of consequences because consequences aren't real until they actually happen.
Your 180 is to find your nuts again.
Your 180 is to be a man, she is dating because she is looking for one, apparently the husband she had she doesn't want, could be something to do with you not being masculine enough for her.
Do you feel that in the dynamic of your relationship? She's bossy, she controls the tempo of everything, she's making the decisions, she decides to do this & that and whatever she wants and you stand back trying to say something but your voice is too afraid to come out & say something and she knows this so she continues doing these things, continues walking all over you because you have a sign that says "doormat" on your forehead.
You need to stop doing what you are currently doing.
None of it works, get that in your head.
What you are currently doing doesn't work.
Agree to this because it's the truth.
Now you have to do the opposite of whatever it is you were doing.
If you were contacting her daily, limit your contact to nothing.
What happened, why did she leave you? Did she have an affair? Did you? Why is it you moved out?
