Actually, in some ways, the WAS does this bit, too. For different reasons. And a lot sooner than the LBS.
A very important point regarding the fact that the WAS 'detatches' first. I read a book (Uncoupling) that talked about the whole process, and in effect that is exactly what the WAS does but they get to do it on their own time in their own way and without someone else pushing them there (unless LBS is abusive/etc I gues).
By the time the LBS understands what has happened they are forced to go throught he same process in a forced fashion, kind of like they had a gun to their head.
The LBS is then 'helped along' or pushed through the proces by the WAS's actions. In my case, some of the emotionally abusive statements and bad behavior finally made me realize that I deserve better and that this is no way to live. I don't pity myself (I used to), but just recognize the situation for what it is.
This is what set me on the road to being detatched in addition to what I mention above about the fishbowl 'aha' moment when I was traveling.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
