Detachment

[antlers]

What else helped you to do 'that' and to get 'there'?

1. Thinking thru the problem.

2. Staying busy.

3. Using all my prior training, education, knowledge and experiences.

4. Understanding it wasn't all in my control.

5. Flipping the switch in my mind (deciding) that I would be OK no matter what.

6. How to act, if I thought it would help with my goals I tried it. Do the right thing. Act out of love.

7. Listening before responding. Validating. Boundaries.

8. Seeing my wife, understanding her, loving her without expectation. Loving her the way she needs to feel loved.

9. Having a open mind. Letting go of dysfunctional beliefs.

1. She's divorcing me. What's there to think thru now?

2. I do. Thank goodness for my bicycling.

3. How do I use these things to help me detatch?

4. Nope. I couldn't stop her from divorcing me. Knowing that, how does it help me to detatch?

5. This, I need to do! I know that! Knowing how to do it would help though? I think it's Coach's Stockdale Principle.

6. Well, the divorce is happening. It's in progress. It's gonna nearly kill me financially, not to mention the emotional and mental expenditure. What goals are there right now besides surviving this?

7. How do these things help me detatch?

8. Again, how do these things, in particular, help me to detatch?

9. I want to get to where I'm not affected by her at all, or what is going on in her life at all...just like any other person on the street would be unaffected by her or what was going on in her life!


ps - thanks