Wife out till 3;30 in the morning

[Kemper]

Sounds like my wife to some point. I have issues with boundaries as well. I don't know what good boundaries look like and are healthy.

For example my wife has had plans to go out with her girlfriends tonight. The other night she asked if I minded if she stayed over at one of their houses. I said I didn't care because honestly my wife doesn't know how to stop once she starts drinking. I would much rather her stay somewhere then try to drive home drunk. However, I do not feel this is the way a W and mother should be acting. I also know that I don't have any control over what she does.

We have a mutual friend that their son has Autism. We were going to go to a fundrasing walk early tomorrow. I asked my wife at dinner last night what time she would be home and she said when she gets up. I told her I was leaving at x time in the morning to go to the Autism walk because we said we would support them. She said it wasn't fair because I would have push both kids during the walk. Oh well, I will get over that fact but I told her the other night that she said she didn't feel like going anymore. My stance is that if I tell someone I am going to do it then I do it. This backing out at the last min. because it doesn't fit in with your new social life sucks.