I actually articulated to him that I have softened and made myself vulnerable to him and it has brought me only pain and mistreatment, that I need space between us to take care of myself.

I am fearful of taking a hardline because of the money and not wanting to deal with his hostility once we are truly separated. I am trying to just take steps to build up my self-esteem and support network so I am not so fearful (including IC and small career decisions.